This may seem like a no-brainer for most people but for those first born among us and who are also type A personalities, always pushing ourselves and used to being able to do whatever we put our minds to – this is a very real dilemma.
When I was first out of the hospital and as well as weeks past surgery I was still not supposed to do things like vacuum, walk upstairs or lift anything over 15 lbs. To someone like me who is used to just pushing past pain and getting it done, this was something I had to really think through.
I felt “lazy” just laying around and resting even though physically, that was exactly what my body needed at that time. It just felt wrong asking my daughter to go upstairs and do the laundry for me or asking my husband to vacuum the carpet even though physically I couldn’t do those things at that time. Those are things I did without a second thought, but I had to continually stop myself from just automatically doing something I wasn’t supposed to do because it could hinder or set back my healing. And believe me, I did not want anything to delay that. But it seemed to be a constant struggle, mentally, at least for me.
I had a very eye-opening, insightful conversation with a good friend. She had been dealing with her own health issues and we are both very similar personalities in that we have always been very strong and healthy and not used to asking for help. She said she noticed that one day she felt driven to buff her wood floors. Now keep in mind that she was dealing with a pain issue and she hadn’t buffed those floors in 14 years and it had not ever been an issue. But just as she was beginning to heal and feel some relief, she said she felt this absolute driving need to push herself to do this!
We talked this through and realized that often that lying devil will put those kinds of thoughts in our minds and almost taunt us into doing what we know good and well we aren’t ready to do right now. He seems to want us to overextend ourselves just when we are starting to heal so we set ourselves back and then we blame God. At least this is the conclusion she and I came to. We also decided that we would eliminate the word “should” from our vocabulary, which I am finding to be very freeing.
That gets me into trouble all too often. “Well I should be able to do this or that by now.” More often than not those “shoulds” just create feelings of inadequacy and guilt in me. Those are not healthy emotions and do not contribute to my well-being so I have decided to eliminate them. I am learning to use wisdom, to do what I feel I can at the moment and not worry about what I can’t yet do. As Joyce Meyer says, “I am a human being – not a human doing.”
Are there “shoulds” that seem to get you into trouble?
Want to see more articles like this? Subscribe to this blog (just click on “Follow”) and get each new post delivered to your email or feed reader. To get more simple, practical nutrition tips, as well as getting exclusive information on giveaways and special offers, be sure to like me on Facebook, sign up for my FREE weekly No-Nonsense Nutrition Report and follow me on Pinterest and Twitter.
Make simple, gradual changes. Boost health, vitality and energy. Become your best YOU.